Three mistakes that are keeping you stuck

The merry-go round of problems, you circle around and come back to it again. The dead-end, stalemate, when you just can’t get anywhere. The general being stuck, blocked, no forward movement, the proverbial hamster wheel. We all know these scenarios in different areas in life. Work, relationships, health & wellbeing, art/creativity, family. Pick your realm but I know you’ve been there. But why.

Here are three mistakes that keep you meeting this problem again and again.

1 - Band-aids! When something doesn’t feel good, we want it to just feel better so we may think we are handling it, but we are often just putting on a band aid to handle it “for now” - return to our regularly scheduled programming and feel blindsided when it comes back up again later. If you’re cycling back to the same problem again and again, this may be one of the ways you’re not dealing with it.

2 - Looking outward. Every problem we have can be traced back to us in some way, shape or form. This isn’t to say everyone around you is perfect and you’re a problem. This means that there is a role you play in all the repetitive issues that come up in your life. Patterns of behavior, relating, habits, reactions etc. When its the norm to look at everything out there, and everyone around you, you will miss looking inward to see the emotional avoidance that is blocking the path to peace and freedom.

3 - Backing away. Some of us run away, some of us retreat inwardly, some of us shrink and hide. Whenever the problem seems too big, or the intensity more than you can bear, you find a way to get away from it all together. Vices, devices, and all form of distractions are included.

If you think you may be doing one or all of these, it isn’t about changing you, fixing you. It is about observing what the experience is like, learning what those sensations mean and responding differently to them. The signals are all already there. Its just your response to them is off track for a variety of reasons. Read the next post for three things you can do to begin a new path and get off that cycle.